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By: Thoughts on How to Handle Imperfect Holidays : Exodus International Blog

Thoughts on How to Handle Imperfect Holidays : Exodus International Blog — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:15:57 +0000

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By: Terri Brown

Terri Brown — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:33:02 +0000

Jan, so sorry for your loss. Either one of those two experiences can bring on intense grief but both within one year...wow, my heart goes out to you. Yes, many people (most who have not traveled this journey) have many opinions on this, which is why we must rely on the Holy Spirits guidance for our particular situation(s). I love what Mike Haley says in his book, 101 Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality, "If you alienate your child, where will he go when he comes to his senses? If home hasn't felt safe, loving and accepting (not of his homosexuality, but of him), then that's the last place he's going to want to return to." I hope you have some special times with your children this Christmas!

By: Terri Brown

Terri Brown — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:33:00 +0000

Jan, so sorry for your loss. Either one of those two experiences can bring on intense grief but both within one year…wow, my heart goes out to you. Yes, many people (most who have not traveled this journey) have many opinions on this, which is why we must rely on the Holy Spirits guidance for our particular situation(s). I love what Mike Haley says in his book, 101 Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality, “If you alienate your child, where will he go when he comes to his senses? If home hasn’t felt safe, loving and accepting (not of his homosexuality, but of him), then that’s the last place he’s going to want to return to.” I hope you have some special times with your children this Christmas!

By: Terri

Terri — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:09:22 +0000

Thanks Debbie!

By: Terri

Terri — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:09:00 +0000

Thanks Debbie!

By: Terri

Terri — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:06:36 +0000

Hi Bert,
I took a few days off (am finally learning to do that . So glad to hear that you are at peace in where you and Eric are now in this journey. The ‘waiting’ can be hard sometimes but remembering that God’s timing is perfect always helps me AND the fact that He loves my son more than I do….so that must be a LOT! Praying for you!

By: Terri

Terri — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:06:00 +0000

By: jan ellis

jan ellis — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 03:55:32 +0000

Thanks, this is just what I needed to hear these holidays. I had already struggled through these decisions alone as I lost my husband a year ago and my son announced he was homosexual and moving in with his partner 6 mo ago. I needed to hear input from someone going through or who has gone thru the same delima. I am reasured I have made the right decisions, how can I witness to him and his partner if I cut him off and how would it affect my daughter who is still at home? Many have told me I should cut him off completely, but they have not delt with this problem.

By: jan ellis

jan ellis — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 03:55:00 +0000

By: donbeeson

donbeeson — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 04:13:12 +0000

Hi,Jay That makes perfect sense to me. I, too am same sex attracted. But I believe that for you and me, that might lessen over time. You have many years for that to happen–me not so many LOL Randy has experienced quite a tranformation over the last 17 years. God could be directing you and me in that direction as well. I think we are both in much agreement here. I enjoy talking with you!