A lot of what we see as male and female is cultural, and is put on us by the society we live in.

For instance, my one and only ex-partner was a man from Botswana. He was mixed Botswana/Zimbabwean. In his culture, for the first five years, the boys spend most of their time with their fathers, learning how to hunt animals. Then the boys spend more time with their mothers, from the age of 5 to marriage, learning how to cook, clean, sew and run a household. I struck gold!!! A guy who could do all the things I couldn’t! And man, he could cook!

A few centuries back in the UK, it was normal for a boy to wear a dress until the age of about 10. There are many portraits of boys from this era in dresses.

Women only started wearing trousers in the UK en masse after the Second World War. In the USA, women were wearing jeans and other trousers a lot earlier.

In one part of, um, I think it’s South America, it’s normal for the tribe to only mix males and females for breeding purposes. Otherwise, the men live on one side of the valley, and the women on the other, and both sides having to hunt and cook and clean for themselves.

In Tunisia, 60% science students are female.

What is seen as male and female behaviour is often not. Society’s attitudes change, sometimes rapidly, and cultures differ. We need to have something solid to form our opinions of what is male behaviour and what is female behaviour, which is the Bible for me. -x-

A lot of what we see as male and female is cultural, and is put on us by the society we live in.

For instance, my one and only ex-partner was a man from Botswana. He was mixed Botswana/Zimbabwean. In his culture, for the first five years, the boys spend most of their time with their fathers, learning how to hunt animals. Then the boys spend more time with their mothers, from the age of 5 to marriage, learning how to cook, clean, sew and run a household. I struck gold!!! A guy who could do all the things I couldn’t! And man, he could cook!

A few centuries back in the UK, it was normal for a boy to wear a dress until the age of about 10. There are many portraits of boys from this era in dresses.

Women only started wearing trousers in the UK en masse after the Second World War. In the USA, women were wearing jeans and other trousers a lot earlier.

In one part of, um, I think it’s South America, it’s normal for the tribe to only mix males and females for breeding purposes. Otherwise, the men live on one side of the valley, and the women on the other, and both sides having to hunt and cook and clean for themselves.

In Tunisia, 60% science students are female.

What is seen as male and female behaviour is often not. Society’s attitudes change, sometimes rapidly, and cultures differ. We need to have something solid to form our opinions of what is male behaviour and what is female behaviour, which is the Bible for me. -x-

I just want to add something else. There is a homosexual man I know who told me when 4th of July came around when he was 7 years old, he decided to form a parade with the other neighborhood kids. One little girl was going as Betsy Ross, another little girl was going as Martha Washington, and he was going as George Washington. He was in the bathroom getting ready, and formulating his costume using various things around the house. He some how made a pony tail out of his hair, and he put flour on his hair to make himself look like he was wearing a powdered wig like Gorge Washington. His father came into the bathroom, and he looked down at him. He got mad and said, you look like a little girl and left. He said he cried so hard that day and locked himself in his room. He said from that point his sexuality changed. He knew it. When he told me this story, my heart ached and I felt deeply sad inside for him.

Again, I have learned that anytime before puberty, doesn’t define sexuality in a child. A child isn’t sexual beings during those years. It’s during puberty that would be an issue. My counselor instructed me that it is so important to have a father role model, and a mother figure in my life. And to bond with my father was important.

Whenever I read or hear from churches or ministers, pastors, etc, pointing out to watch your child when he or she plays with dolls or whatever, I cringe. I feel very sorry for their children because that child is going to grow up with a heavy dysfunctional problem because he or she might receive negative messages there is something wrong with them. On top of all that, he or she will get blamed for having homosexual yearns. My counselor once said to me, who would choose this? Do you know how stupid that is for people to think growing up you chose this?! I think that issue about the toys is just so hokey. I once read that James Dobson stated the same stupid thing about playing with certain toys. It’s completely backward thinking.

I just want to add something else. There is a homosexual man I know who told me when 4th of July came around when he was 7 years old, he decided to form a parade with the other neighborhood kids. One little girl was going as Betsy Ross, another little girl was going as Martha Washington, and he was going as George Washington. He was in the bathroom getting ready, and formulating his costume using various things around the house. He some how made a pony tail out of his hair, and he put flour on his hair to make himself look like he was wearing a powdered wig like Gorge Washington. His father came into the bathroom, and he looked down at him. He got mad and said, you look like a little girl and left. He said he cried so hard that day and locked himself in his room. He said from that point his sexuality changed. He knew it. When he told me this story, my heart ached and I felt deeply sad inside for him.

Again, I have learned that anytime before puberty, doesn’t define sexuality in a child. A child isn’t sexual beings during those years. It’s during puberty that would be an issue. My counselor instructed me that it is so important to have a father role model, and a mother figure in my life. And to bond with my father was important.

Whenever I read or hear from churches or ministers, pastors, etc, pointing out to watch your child when he or she plays with dolls or whatever, I cringe. I feel very sorry for their children because that child is going to grow up with a heavy dysfunctional problem because he or she might receive negative messages there is something wrong with them. On top of all that, he or she will get blamed for having homosexual yearns. My counselor once said to me, who would choose this? Do you know how stupid that is for people to think growing up you chose this?! I think that issue about the toys is just so hokey. I once read that James Dobson stated the same stupid thing about playing with certain toys. It’s completely backward thinking.

I am a gay and transgender female. Am I gay and transgender because I watched and played soccer (for the church team)? No. Am I gay and transgender because I spent a lot of time with my Dad, building walls and doing DIY? No.

I am gay and transgender because the girls around me at school and at church were horrible, horrible people, who rejected me, who were bitchy, backstabbing, self-centred, not very bright, and as they got older, they had 3 kids by 3 different men by the age of 18.

I was a Christian, very dedicated to trying to live a holy life, follow Jesus and do what I can for society, and I have above average intelligence, which I want to use for the betterment of society, like my brother does.

I grew up realising I wasn’t like other girls. I didn’t realise it at the time, but I grew up thinking I wasn’t a girl, or a boy, but something in between. I have a female body, which I love, but I’m like boys, I’m a nice person, I’m not useless, I’m funny, sensitive, kind, intelligent, caring, live by the Bible… So I thought I was something in between, and to be honest, I still have a hard time liking women as people, and I still see myself in the third category, which is what I call ‘Real Women’.

My friends Amy, Esther, Lisa etc are Real Women – not cos they’re trans, but cos they are amazing people I really admire, I like as sisters in the faith, and they do amazing things and are just amazing people. Not like most women, in my view. My views are still not sorted out, and I think will take my whole life to sort out.

I was a very sensitive child, which has led to my concern for people in society, and to develop really positive personal traits, to be kind to all people, and it also made me see how much I didn’t want to be like other girls, and how much I really wasn’t like them in attitude, intelligence level or behaviour.

I think parents really need to learn how to deal with sensitive children.

I think parents need to stop looking to MTV and The Enquirer to see what ‘normality’ looks like. Parents need to look to the Bible to see what normality looks like. Proverbs 29 teaches us an ideal woman is to be both physically and mentally strong. Most physically and mentally strong girls are called ‘gay’ at a young age. Jesus cared for small children. If a boy did that, he’d be called ‘gay’.

We really need to align our thinking to what the Bible teaches, and not what MTV and The Enquirer teach.

And frankly, labelling children ‘gay and transgender’ at such a young age is ludicrous. What are people trying to do to their children? Make them gay and transgender? Accept the uniqueness that your children are. Don’t push them to be bleach-blond(e) brainless clones ready for The Hills or whatever crubbish is served up on MTV these days. Putting a child through therapy at such a young age? How stupid? I didn’t need therapy at a young age. I just needed my parents to spend more time with me. They were working hard, trying to provide for us, but I really wish they’d just spent more time with me. Spend time with your kids! That’s what they really need. And spend time talking about how special they are, and how God created them with unique gifts, and that He has amazing, world-altering plans for them to carry out, that He put in place before they were even born. Ephesians 2:10. Go and teach your kids how special they are! And just love them. –x-

I am a gay and transgender female. Am I gay and transgender because I watched and played soccer (for the church team)? No. Am I gay and transgender because I spent a lot of time with my Dad, building walls and doing DIY? No.

I am gay and transgender because the girls around me at school and at church were horrible, horrible people, who rejected me, who were bitchy, backstabbing, self-centred, not very bright, and as they got older, they had 3 kids by 3 different men by the age of 18.

I was a Christian, very dedicated to trying to live a holy life, follow Jesus and do what I can for society, and I have above average intelligence, which I want to use for the betterment of society, like my brother does.

I grew up realising I wasn’t like other girls. I didn’t realise it at the time, but I grew up thinking I wasn’t a girl, or a boy, but something in between. I have a female body, which I love, but I’m like boys, I’m a nice person, I’m not useless, I’m funny, sensitive, kind, intelligent, caring, live by the Bible… So I thought I was something in between, and to be honest, I still have a hard time liking women as people, and I still see myself in the third category, which is what I call ‘Real Women’.

My friends Amy, Esther, Lisa etc are Real Women – not cos they’re trans, but cos they are amazing people I really admire, I like as sisters in the faith, and they do amazing things and are just amazing people. Not like most women, in my view. My views are still not sorted out, and I think will take my whole life to sort out.

I was a very sensitive child, which has led to my concern for people in society, and to develop really positive personal traits, to be kind to all people, and it also made me see how much I didn’t want to be like other girls, and how much I really wasn’t like them in attitude, intelligence level or behaviour.

I think parents really need to learn how to deal with sensitive children.

I think parents need to stop looking to MTV and The Enquirer to see what ‘normality’ looks like. Parents need to look to the Bible to see what normality looks like. Proverbs 29 teaches us an ideal woman is to be both physically and mentally strong. Most physically and mentally strong girls are called ‘gay’ at a young age. Jesus cared for small children. If a boy did that, he’d be called ‘gay’.

We really need to align our thinking to what the Bible teaches, and not what MTV and The Enquirer teach.

And frankly, labelling children ‘gay and transgender’ at such a young age is ludicrous. What are people trying to do to their children? Make them gay and transgender? Accept the uniqueness that your children are. Don’t push them to be bleach-blond(e) brainless clones ready for The Hills or whatever crubbish is served up on MTV these days. Putting a child through therapy at such a young age? How stupid? I didn’t need therapy at a young age. I just needed my parents to spend more time with me. They were working hard, trying to provide for us, but I really wish they’d just spent more time with me. Spend time with your kids! That’s what they really need. And spend time talking about how special they are, and how God created them with unique gifts, and that He has amazing, world-altering plans for them to carry out, that He put in place before they were even born. Ephesians 2:10. Go and teach your kids how special they are! And just love them. –x-

I think you’re right that there’s still time to channel the boy’s gifts. I think it will take some prayerful planning on the part of the parents on exactly how they can do that. I would think the two most important things to do are:

1. Make sure the boy is building a strong spiritual foundation. With a strong faith, he can more appropriately channel whatever gifts, desires, and passions are in his life. Christ can do a mighty work in his life over the course of his growing up years.

2. The dad needs to make sure there’s a secure and loving bond between him and his son. Not only must he accept his son, so too must the son accept the father.

I think building those two relationships–one with the boy’s heavenly Father and the other with the boy’s earthly father will go a long way to enabling the boy and his parents to handle whatever happens as he continues to grow into manhood.

I think you’re right that there’s still time to channel the boy’s gifts. I think it will take some prayerful planning on the part of the parents on exactly how they can do that. I would think the two most important things to do are:

1. Make sure the boy is building a strong spiritual foundation. With a strong faith, he can more appropriately channel whatever gifts, desires, and passions are in his life. Christ can do a mighty work in his life over the course of his growing up years.

2. The dad needs to make sure there’s a secure and loving bond between him and his son. Not only must he accept his son, so too must the son accept the father.

I think building those two relationships–one with the boy’s heavenly Father and the other with the boy’s earthly father will go a long way to enabling the boy and his parents to handle whatever happens as he continues to grow into manhood.