On Singleness, The Day After Valentines Day

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I used to hate Valentines Day during the first few years of my post-gay journey. I used to joke about going Cupid Hunting.  The anger present back then is long gone but I still like making fun of February 14th being "Open Cupid Hunting Season." A couple of years ago I had funny little tweets of hunting him down throughout the day. As sappy as this might sound, it is a day I to try to take some time and consider "The Lover of my Soul." His love is meant, and more than sufficient, to sustain those of us who are not married. And that means all of us at some point in lives are meant … [Read more...]

Exodus Releases New Video – Embracing the Call

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Exodus International is committed to mobilizing the body of Christ to minister grace and truth to a world impacted by homosexuality. In this video, you will hear from individuals whose lives have been transformed as a result of being part of a local church. It is our desire for every individual struggling with unwanted same-sex attractions to find a safe community built upon grace and truth. … [Read more...]

“Setting The Record Straight” on Love In Action

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My friend Frank, aka Agent SoapBox (grin), wrote about his experience and the live-in program Love In Action (LIA).  Most of what you read about LIA online is very negative but over the years I have met quite a few people who found the program to  be very helpful.  Frank shares about the first night he arrived: That night, I arrived at the house I was staying in, we sat at the dinner table, shared some praises and prayer about our day and bonded. I went to my bed and fell soundly asleep. It had been about 30 some hours I had been awake in total so I was dead tired. But before I fell … [Read more...]

Real Hope, Real Truth, Real Answers – Documentary

This is the trailer from the documentary "Real Hope, Real Truth, Real Answers" by Tom Coy. He says that the documentary gives insight into the Christian "ex-gay" movement with footage from our Exodus Freedom Conference in 2006 (from Indiana.) The trailer features Exodus leaders Alan Chambers, James Wimbush, Christine Sneeringer and yours truly. Exodus itself did not have any editorial control over the documentary (wouldn't use the word ex-gay or the heavy emphasis on "homosexuals" as a generalization.) We also do not have editorial control of the youtube channel the video resides on … [Read more...]

White Knuckles, Porn & Shame

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A few of the gay gossip blogs are in a tizzy regarding my post concerning Covenant Eyes, a faith-based software company that filters sexual content on the web.  They infer that because I use such a tool that must indicate that Jesus must be a helplessly, weak entity and that Christians experiencing temptation are all white-knuckling liars. I couldn't disagree more. The Lord imparts the fruit of His Spirit, including self-control, to prepare a safe space to be able to make what I think are biblical and appropriate decisions. The fact that I, as well as countless others, choose to submit … [Read more...]

Prodigal Ministries – A Skeptic Discovers Quite a Different Perspective

Excellent blog post by Steve Fuller. I say it is excellent because Mr. Fuller is honest and humble enough to challenge his own preconceived notions to press toward the truth of a heartfelt and difficult situation. Plus, I think it is excellent because Jerry Armelli, featured in the post, is awesome.  From Social Experiment #5: Prodigal Ministries: In 2009, I visited 52 churches in 52 weeks in order to reconnect with God and redefine my faith. In 2010, I am stepping outside of the church to connect with people. During the Social Experiment, I will experience 52 random encounters in 52 … [Read more...]

Unapologetic About Prayer

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Exodus is a Christian faith based organization.  We do believe in a Living God who has His own opinions and will for our lives.  We do believe that being in communication with Him is essential.  It is essential to not only find and experience freedom in one area of life ... our Communion with God is essential for all aspects of life.  Engaging in dialog with a living God is why we call him Lord, Savior and Abba (our Father.) Here is our doctrinal statement (emphasis mine for the purpose of this post): Doctrinal Statement We believe the Scriptures of the Old and New Testament are the … [Read more...]

The Wounded Unseen – My Response to Gayle Haggard’s New Book (Alan Chambers)

Charisma Magazine has published my article The Wounded Unseen.  I conclude the article with: I am convinced that we as a church must do all we can to speak to these issues - to not only reach out to the husband or wife who struggles with their sexuality, but to also put an arm around a heartbroken spouse and walk with a family in need. If we do not, the culture will speak where we are silent.  As Gayle Haggard says, the ultimate question for her became, "Will I be the woman who washes her hands of the situation and walks away from Ted or will I be the woman who loves him and shows … [Read more...]

Please Pray for & Support Local Exodus Ministries – Graham’s Story

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Daily, the Exodus team is asked to explain who Exodus is, what we do, and why we do what we do?  As we begin to explain, we often start seeing that puzzled look that we’re so used to seeing.  And then the usual responses begin with, “you mean there are really people who struggle with unwanted homosexuality?  People can find freedom from that?”  Then, we’ll either get the response of “well, that’s just not possible” or “I didn’t know people could struggle with same sex attractions.”  On a few occasions, we’ll get the positive response of a quick, “thank you for your … [Read more...]

Gayle Haggard Releases Memoir titled “Why I Stayed” – Interview with Renee Dallas

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Gayle Haggard has been through a proverbial trial by fire for the past few years. I have been impressed with the grace, wisdom and humble boldness she obviously abides in.  You can tell the Lord is her comfort and shield. Today Gayle is releasing her memoir concerning her husband's (Megachurch and National Leader, Ted Haggard) sexual fall and resulting highly publicized aftermath titled Why I Stayed: The Choices I Made in My Darkest Hour. She will appear on The Oprah Show later today to discuss the book. For a response, we turned to trusted leader (of WifeBoat blog and online support) … [Read more...]