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Let’s Talk About Those Gay Rats

October 25, 2010 By Randy Thomas
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John Cloud writes in Why You're Gay: A New Study Shows Why Boy Rats Like Other Boy Rats: Despite what the Bible says, lust is inborn: our species couldn't survive if we didn't yearn to have sex with one another. But exactly how sexual desire develops is, even at this late date, poorly understood. We know more about the musculature of the left femur than we do about how our brains acquire and process the desire to engage sexually. That's why I was intrigued by a new study in the journal Psychological Science. Typically I don't care about studies of rat behavior because, after all, the … [Read more...]

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Masturbation: Is it Sin?

August 4, 2010 By Chris Stump
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*Posted originally at Exodus Youth. About seven years ago I attended my first Exodus conference.  As I was looking at the multitude of workshops offered during the week I came across one entitled "Something, something...MASTURBATION".  I can't remember the whole title, because I just saw that "m" word.  I knew I had to go to that one.  But of course when the time came to go I was filled with so much trepidation and shame.  Would I be the only one in the workshop?  I got up enough courage to go, and to my amazement, the room was so full, there was barely any standing room.  It … [Read more...]

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Dear Gay/Porn Forum User

August 3, 2010 By Randy Thomas
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Yesterday's post on the disenfranchisement of Christian therapists and clients from professional counseling had a surprising source of linkage that drove a decent amount of traffic to the blog. The sources of the links: Two gay/porn sites.  And I think it comes as no surprise I won't be linking back to them. :) I didn't investigate them to figure out what the purpose of these sites were or what is being said but given the URL of the addresses it was kind of obvious what the overall sites are about. So ... sincerely ... welcome! I can't quite figure out why yesterday's post would … [Read more...]

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White Knuckles, Porn & Shame

February 8, 2010 By Randy Thomas
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A few of the gay gossip blogs are in a tizzy regarding my post concerning Covenant Eyes, a faith-based software company that filters sexual content on the web.  They infer that because I use such a tool that must indicate that Jesus must be a helplessly, weak entity and that Christians experiencing temptation are all white-knuckling liars. I couldn't disagree more. The Lord imparts the fruit of His Spirit, including self-control, to prepare a safe space to be able to make what I think are biblical and appropriate decisions. The fact that I, as well as countless others, choose to submit … [Read more...]

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Of Muslims, Male Brothels and a Post-gay Change of Heart

December 14, 2009 By Randy Thomas
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Around twenty years ago I was a proud gay man sitting in Denny's with a few friends.  One of whom, a female, was dating a young Muslim man we will call Roy.  Roy is a native of Kuwait but last I heard he has been in the states since I met him. When I first met him he was just learning English and not real hip to the whole gay thing.  He wasn't mean and was actually very kind but you knew that it was a subject he didn't really want to know all the details about.  He and the young lady I was friends with eventually married and they were still married after I became a Christian and had a … [Read more...]

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Porn – 3 Reasons To Stop Now

August 19, 2009 By Randy Thomas
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I originally posted this on my old blog in February of '08 but wanted to repost it here.  It's as relevant as the first time I blogged it. *** Joe Dallas is an incredibly gracious and smart man. I found the following article very informative and wanted to share it with you. It is published with permission. Porn - 3 Reasons to Stop Now - Joe Dallas This is the first of a ten part series by Joe Dallas on recovery from pornography If you're a Christian man using pornography, you are, unfortunately, far from alone. Over 18 % of the men polled in a Zogby/Focus on the Family survey, … [Read more...]

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