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Let’s Talk About Those Gay Rats

October 25, 2010 By Randy Thomas
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John Cloud writes in Why You're Gay: A New Study Shows Why Boy Rats Like Other Boy Rats: Despite what the Bible says, lust is inborn: our species couldn't survive if we didn't yearn to have sex with one another. But exactly how sexual desire develops is, even at this late date, poorly understood. We know more about the musculature of the left femur than we do about how our brains acquire and process the desire to engage sexually. That's why I was intrigued by a new study in the journal Psychological Science. Typically I don't care about studies of rat behavior because, after all, the … [Read more...]

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What’s Healthy vs. Unhealthy Same-Sex Relationships? – Real Answers Article for October 2010

October 20, 2010 By Kristin Tremba
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This article appears in both our offline and online newsletters.  To receive articles like this along with the full newsletter online via email or offline through the postal service please sign up here. --- How can I discern the difference between healthy and unhealthy same-sex relationships?  by Kristin Tremba When I was struggling with same-sex attraction, I found myself attracted to women who offered to meet all my emotional needs. These relationships were intense, secretive, and all-consuming. Instead of admiring a fellow female as a friend, I worshiped her as an idol. Why did … [Read more...]

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New Book “Naked Surrender” by Andy Comiskey

October 20, 2010 By Randy Thomas
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Today I want to post an interview I did via email with Andy Comiskey about his new book titled "Naked Surrender."  I have posted the interview exactly as it happened.  There has been very little editing (spelling, formatting.)  Also, all emphasis (bold and italics are mine.  Without further ado :) ... First of all, congratulations on your new book.  The provocative title is "Naked Surrender: coming home to our true sexuality." When you say "Naked Surrender" is that both literal and figurative?  What does it mean to "come home" to our true sexuality? Andy: 'Naked surrender' refers … [Read more...]

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Living Water, The Well – Kristin Tremba’s Video Testimony

August 24, 2010 By Randy Thomas

Living Water: Labels from The Well on Vimeo. From The Well's vimeo page containing this video: Kristin Tremba struggled with gender identity and same sex attraction throughout the early years of her life. She experienced emotional intimacy with a good friend during college and through those feelings she concluded that she was gay. However, she didn’t want to take on that gay identity and kept her struggles silent. In her late 20’s, she began to fear that she would never marry a man and have a family. She lacked the trust that God would provide for her future and fell into an … [Read more...]

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Dear Gay/Porn Forum User

August 3, 2010 By Randy Thomas
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Yesterday's post on the disenfranchisement of Christian therapists and clients from professional counseling had a surprising source of linkage that drove a decent amount of traffic to the blog. The sources of the links: Two gay/porn sites.  And I think it comes as no surprise I won't be linking back to them. :) I didn't investigate them to figure out what the purpose of these sites were or what is being said but given the URL of the addresses it was kind of obvious what the overall sites are about. So ... sincerely ... welcome! I can't quite figure out why yesterday's post would … [Read more...]

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Eighteen Years and Counting

July 23, 2010 By Randy Thomas
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This is cross-posted on the ETC Blog.  Here is an audio file (embedded at the end of this post as well.) *** Today is the day that I remember the actual moment in which I turned away from my gay worldview and began my Christian post-gay journey. This is *not* the day I became a Christian.  I was born again before I turned away from homosexuality.  The anniversary of accepting Christ as Lord and Savior is in the last week of May.  So yes, I considered myself a "gay Christian" for the whole two months between May and July of 1992. During a prayer time 18 years ago the Lord (no … [Read more...]

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Are You Happier Now Than When You Were Gay?

July 14, 2010 By Randy Thomas
You Just Never Know What Could Happen Now Do You?

One of my young(er) friends on Facebook sent me a message that I have been getting a lot lately.  Now that I have passed the 40 year old mark by two years the youngin's ask me "lonely old man" questions a lot.  They don't say it like that and I am being humorous in phrasing it that way but it's true, I am getting older and have been celibate for 18 years this coming July 23rd. So they want to know if you can be happy, older and not pursuing or in a gay relationship.  Wade (not his real name) writes in part: Are you happy? I know your probably thinking 'weirdo', but I'm not. Basically … [Read more...]

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I Love You, Man

April 8, 2010 By Randy Thomas
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Previously I asked for feedback from you all about "bromances" but didn't offer any of my own opinions on the matter. I want this post to be the follow up after some prayer and thought. So here we go. I never saw the movie, "I Love You, Man" but here is the description from IMDB: Friendless Peter Klaven goes on a series of man-dates to find a Best Man for his wedding. But when his insta-bond with his new B.F.F. puts a strain on his relationship with his fiancée, can the trio learn to live happily ever after? I am not sure if the movie pre-dates the creation of the slang word … [Read more...]

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Dispelling the myths about OneByOne and Exodus International

February 22, 2010 By Kristin Tremba
Churchandworld.com

Originally posted on Presbyweb's (also ChurchandWorld.com) Viewpoint on February 17, 2010: Dispelling the myths about OneByOne and Exodus International By Kristin J. Tremba In January of this year, Presbyterian USA pastor, Rev. Ray Bagnuolo, wrote an article called "Ex-Gay. Ex-Loving". In his article, he made some inaccurate statements about the ministry of OneByOne and other "ex-gay" misnitries, which stand to be corrected. First, OneByOne has merged with Exodus International, the nation's largest Christian referral ministry for those who struggle with unwanted same-sex … [Read more...]

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On Singleness, The Day After Valentines Day

February 15, 2010 By Randy Thomas
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I used to hate Valentines Day during the first few years of my post-gay journey. I used to joke about going Cupid Hunting.  The anger present back then is long gone but I still like making fun of February 14th being "Open Cupid Hunting Season." A couple of years ago I had funny little tweets of hunting him down throughout the day. As sappy as this might sound, it is a day I to try to take some time and consider "The Lover of my Soul." His love is meant, and more than sufficient, to sustain those of us who are not married. And that means all of us at some point in lives are meant … [Read more...]

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