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Why Does The Gay Community Refuse to Acknowledge Our Testimony?

September 21, 2010 By Randy Thomas

This question was left on my formspring service after I wrote this post on my personal blog. I will answer it by parsing out the different points. First ... How can people in the gay community make that claim dismissing a person once being gay? I think some (not all) make that claim just like Conservatives and/or Christians who used to claim (some still do) that there are no truly gay people. What I have discovered is that people on both sides, actually people in general, are not usually happy with others whose identity and/or moral systems are based in direct opposite views to their … [Read more...]

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Eighteen Years and Counting

July 23, 2010 By Randy Thomas

This is cross-posted on the ETC Blog. Here is an audio file (embedded at the end of this post as well.) *** Today is the day that I remember the actual moment in which I turned away from my gay worldview and began my Christian post-gay journey. This is *not* the day I became a Christian. I was born again before I turned away from homosexuality. The anniversary of accepting Christ as Lord and Savior is in the last week of May. So yes, I considered myself a "gay Christian" for the whole two months between May and July of 1992. During a prayer time 18 years ago the Lord (no … [Read more...]

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First Hand Report From The NEA Ex-gay Educator’s Caucus

July 14, 2010 By Randy Thomas

Melinda has become one of my favorite facebook friends. She's always got an encouraging word. She recently went to the NEA Convention and she had a remarkable experience. I asked if she would like to write a guest blog post about her experience and she graciously agreed. Here's Melinda in her own words (emphasis mine): My experience manning the NEA Ex-gay Educator’s Caucus booth at the National Education Association (NEA) convention in New Orleans recently could be compared to being in a dunking booth or being fed to the lions. The Caucus was raising awareness that “ex-gays” do, … [Read more...]

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British Comedienne, and Former Lesbian, Becomes Happily Married Mother of Four

July 12, 2010 By Randy Thomas

From How I Went from Committed Lesbian to a Happily Married Mother of Four: Looking at my four children racing around the garden with their father, it seems almost impossible to believe that only a few years ago I never imagined having a family. Or rather, when I did stop to think of myself as becoming a mother, I imagined the only way I'd do so would be through an anonymous sperm donor. Today, with five-year-old triplets, Thady, Frank and Orla, and a seven-year-old daughter, Saoirse, a husband and a home in a leafy London suburb, I could be viewed as the archehtypal wife and mother, … [Read more...]

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The Post-Gay Momentum Is Increasing

June 16, 2010 By Randy Thomas

I am increasingly confident that we are moving into a post-gay era. Post-gay is a very broad secular term that was created in the gay community to describe a day where they reach full equality (as they define equality) and no longer need to fight public policy, social or religious battles. I contend (hat tip to Peter Ould) that people like us are on a Christian post-gay journey where the gay vs. ex-gay vs straight labels are no longer sufficient ... or even appropriate ... to describe who or what we are about. That said, I listened to this whole program on Boston station WBUR. The … [Read more...]

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Follow Up Interview with Bradlee Dean

June 7, 2010 By Randy Thomas

Last week I posted about Bradlee Dean's controversial radio program where it seemed he was praising Muslim countries for how they handled the issue of homosexuality. He called me first thing the very next day. He shared his heart and agreed to do a follow up interview via email. I promised him that I would publish his answers unedited. There were a total of five rounds of questions and an opportunity to share whatever else he wanted to share. To date he has sent me responses to the first four rounds of questions and I will update this post with the final round of questions and his … [Read more...]

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Eve Tushnet, “Gay and Celibate,” Featured in the New York Times

June 7, 2010 By Randy Thomas

Photo Credit: Luke Sharrett/The New York Times

I still hold the perspective that we are headed, increasingly, into a post-gay reality. A reality where gay vs. straight forced into the glbtqi? soup of labels fails to suffice as our (those who have or had same sex attractions) only context for a relational paradigm. Is Eve an example of that post-gay reality coming into being? I don't believe I have ever met her and not sure she would agree with me since she does embrace a gay identity ... but her life doesn't really fit any of the conventional culture war stereotypes. I find that intriguing. From the New York Times: WASHINGTON … [Read more...]

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Core Issues Speaking Engagement

April 14, 2010 By Alan Chambers

Next week I will be traveling to Belfast, Northern Ireland to speak at an event for a group called Core Issues headed by Michael Davidson. I have been asked to share insights from my latest book, Leaving Homosexuality (Harvest House, 2009). Core Issues has recently had other Exodus leaders, like Christine Sneeringer, in to speak for what looks like a series on the complexities related to same-sex attraction and faith. The speaker that kicked off this series for Core Issues and has some official connection to that organization is a man that I do not know named Dr. Paul Miller. Dr. Miller … [Read more...]

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Dispelling the myths about OneByOne and Exodus International

February 22, 2010 By Kristin Tremba

Originally posted on Presbyweb's (also ChurchandWorld.com) Viewpoint on February 17, 2010: Dispelling the myths about OneByOne and Exodus International By Kristin J. Tremba In January of this year, Presbyterian USA pastor, Rev. Ray Bagnuolo, wrote an article called "Ex-Gay. Ex-Loving". In his article, he made some inaccurate statements about the ministry of OneByOne and other "ex-gay" misnitries, which stand to be corrected. First, OneByOne has merged with Exodus International, the nation's largest Christian referral ministry for those who struggle with unwanted same-sex … [Read more...]

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Message from And Responding to a “Happy Lesbian”

February 11, 2010 By Randy Thomas

If you look at the comment counts on our blog you would think that we only get a few sporadic ones from time to time with sudden bursts here and there. Not true. We get a lot actually. The problem is that most of them involve some new way for me to burn in hell. So because of our Comment Policy, a vast majority of those comments never make it through. This blog won't be hijacked by that type of ... discussion. However, today it seemed a good idea to turn one comment we received overnight into an actual post. The person who left the comment used a fake email and the alias "Happy … [Read more...]

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Follow Up Interview with Bradlee Dean

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